A man who was given a woman’s name at birth is in a difficult situation as his sister wants to name her daughter “Krxstxl”, pronounced as “Crystal”, which he thinks is a terrible idea due to his own experiences with an unconventional name causing him harm. He argues with his sister and calls her and her husband “sh**y parents” for choosing a fashion statement over their child’s well-being.
Ok, so just a little context because this topic is incredibly touchy for me. I am a man who was given a woman’s name at birth. A good example is naming your son Alice. It’s not what my name was but it’s close. My parents are hippies and gave their oldest son a girl’s name to “stick it to the man” and I will never forgive them for it. That name caused me to be bullied and damaged my professional life in ways I cannot describe.
My sister is pregnant with her first child. A girl. She and her husband are ecstatic, it just sucks that she inherited my parent’s stupid propensity to see their children as fashion statements. Last night, she revealed to the family the name of her daughter.
It’s Krxstxl. She wants to name her daughter Krxstxl. Confused, the name is pronounced Crystal. I already don’t like that name but it’s at least appropriate. I was not surprised to learn that my mom helped come up with the name.
When she told me, I told her it was a terrible idea. If she wants to name her Crystal, name her Crystal. She tried to explain to me why the x’s are there and I just told her it does not matter. She’s naming a human, not a dog. I don’t care what kind of fashion statement she’s trying to make, this is a person who will have to live with that name until they die or have it changed.
She and my mom brushed me off as just complaining because I was never able to accept my name. I told my sister she was being either selfish, stupid, or an incredibly strong combination of the two if she thinks her daughter will want a stupid name like Krxstxl. We got into an argument and I told her I already see her and her husband as shi**y parents for using their kid to be off-brand with her name and left right after.
My sister is not taking it well at all and my mom is furious with me. I’m starting to wonder if I was too harsh. I will not change my opinion on that incredibly stupid name. But I’m wondering if branding her as a shi**y parent was too far.
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