Using public transportation requires you to share a space with other people while some riders disagree. Being a kind individual is one of the numerous reasons to give up your seat to a pregnant woman who has just jumped onto public transportation. However, not everyone agrees, as this pregnant woman discovered firsthand. Read the story and do you agree with the pregnant woman’s response?
So, I, f30, and am 8 months pregnant. I take public transport to work daily. I’m always exhausted because I have to work extra time to be able to afford basic necessities. I take the bus to work everyday and oftentimes it’s packed, but I get lucky enough when decent folks volunteer their seats for me. Now I should mention that I Don’t use my pregnancy as an excuse to get what I want but people just offer me their places by themselves which is kind and sweet.
Wednesday, I get on the bus like usual but this time there’s one empty seat, I go to sit but I find a guy in his business attire sitting there with his hand on the empty seat (sort of like resting it?) I say excuse me and ask him to remove his hand so I could sit, but he tells me the seat was “taken”. I ask by who and he says his hand.
Not gonna lie….I laughed a little but wasn’t feeling well so I asked him to remove it so I could sit but he refused again, folks started staring. I tell him I’m tired and need to sit and he replies saying my pregnancy isn’t his problem.
I had enough at this point, my legs were burning and my back was hurting, so I went ahead and sat on his hand. He freaks out and tries to remove it quickly while shouting at me. He then starts arguing about how disrespectful I was to do this inappropriate thing and in public no less, I argue back but then he gets off after saying I was being inappropriate and disrespectful. Everyone stares at me and I just sit there feeling a bit of shame about what happened.
I tell my husband about this incident, then he says that I did indeed act inappropriately and shouldn’t have made this guy uncomfortable by sitting on his hand like that. He tells me I f#$%^d up and this was totally inappropriate despite me saying I was so tired of standing and was in desperate need to sit down. Did I go too far here? Does he have a valid point or not?
What would you do in her situation? Here are a few comments on the story where it was originally posted: