Every parent’s route to parenting is unique, but one woman on TikTok never could have anticipated how convoluted and long her own life would be. The unnamed mother routinely posts videos from her life, which now involves a 2-year-old daughter who makes her world immensely happier, under the account @TheVintageParents.
However, the mother was astonished by the variety of replies she got after recently disclosing her plan to adopt at the age of 49, including those from vile, callous strangers who accused her of being “selfish.”
Following the release of a TikTok about her reproductive troubles last month, the mother first faced criticism.
She was shown in the footage appearing distraught and helpless. Being told at 41, following her latest miscarriage, that she would never be a parent and to accept her fate, she sobbed.
A few seconds later, the picture altered to reveal the mother as she is now, holding a young child in her arms.
The mother captioned the picture, However parenthood comes to you, it’s a miracle, and continued, at 51 with her 2-year-old.
@thevintageparents However motherhood comes to you, it's a miracle. #thevintageparents #adoptionstory #miscarriage #thevintagemom #whatalie #miscarriages ♬ What a time by Niall Horan and Julia Michaels – ana.tpwk
The film was intended to be motivating, but it seems that not all found that to be the case.
Although they intended to be friendly, several people’s comments contained subtle jabs at the mother’s age.
Someone said, “I genuinely hope you people have a long, healthy life so she has you folks around for a long time. I mean this with pure compassion.”
Others, on the other hand, were more direct.
One lady yelled, “That unfortunate youngster who will regrettably have an elderly mom before she graduates school.”
She had a kid so late in life that someone else dubbed her “selfish” for doing so as she probably wouldn’t get to see them grow up.
One user said, “At that age, I would have never even attempted.” It’s really unjust to the kid.
Others asserted that they were speaking from personal experience.
One individual noted, “My fiance is 30 with 80-year-old parents who have many health concerns. He is fortunate that they have survived this long, but it stresses him.
Another user said, “Sad, as someone with aging parents, it truly does take a toll on us.”
One TikToker remarked, “My father passed away at 60.” “I have to spend the rest of my life without him since I’m 26. The students receiving them so late is simply unfair.”
Fortunately, a number of individuals did help the mother.
One commentator said, “Man, this comment section is nuts,” adding that she was “so pleased” for the parent.
Someone else questioned, “Why are people so rude?!”
A third individual said, “People are genuinely furious over your life, that doesn’t apply to them at all.”
She really received a lot of thanks for telling her tale in the first place from many individuals.
One person commented, “What an uplifting tale that I needed to hear.” “I’m grateful,”
Another person said, “I’m simply pleased that someone who loves that baby got to adopt her. “In particular for infants, the system may be icy and brutal. I am completely aware of this.”
“Just a reminder that this is her life and she is free to live it whatever she pleases. She is an excellent mother and provided this child a home like no one else could.”
The mother expressed her gratitude to her followers in multiple follow-up videos.
@thevintageparents Thank you for supporting my journey to motherhood. #ComeDanceWithMe #thevintagemom #trolls #momsover50 #adoption@BadParentingMoments ♬ First Class – Jack Harlow
She also provided some additional background information on how she came to be in her current position, beginning with an unanticipated divorce in her late 30s and the thrill of finding love again at 40.
@thevintageparents Don’t let anyone tell you, you are too old! #loveafterdivorce #loveafter40 #thevintageparents ♬ original sound – Tim Gallagher
Having said that, her desire of having children appeared to be fading after attempting to conceive for years and years and years. When she started researching adoption at that time, she was paired with a precious newborn girl who would transform her life.
@thevintageparents Reply to @andreasmithforbes #greenscreenvideo what say you TikTok? Love to @Elton John ♬ original sound – The Vintage Parents
She certainly wouldn’t change a thing if she could go back in time.
She does, however, hope that people would be more understanding and nice. Particularly when male celebrities who have children at various older ages receive acclaim for doing so.
@thevintageparents #greenscreenvideo #greenscreen word for word comments I have received as a: #workingmom #adoptivemom #thevintagemom #oldermom ♬ Miami, My Amy – Keith Whitley
This mother, however, is concentrating on all the supportive responses she has received since sharing her experience rather than on the critical ones. And there are undoubtedly a few excellent ones.
One individual rightly said, “No amount of time is promised between any parent and kid.” The most important thing, though, is to be the greatest parent you can be while still on this planet.
