In-law relationships are never simple. For years, we struggled to feel welcomed by our SO’s parents. However in this story a furious argument took place between the wife and her mother-in-law who told her to work harder in the bedroom to fall pregnant. Read the story and let us know if you agree with the wife’s reaction.
Source: Reddit
Hey, so am I (F27) the Jerk for telling my MIL (F57) to go ***k herself. So my husband (M31) has a really close relationship with his Mom. It never really bothered me, I thought it was sweet. He has sisters but when I first met his family it became clear to me that my husband was his mothers favourite. She showered him with love and attention, his sisters didn’t really get that.
When we first met she looked at me up and down saying, “yes I know all about you”. I thought nothing of it. It’s been like this for a few years, snide comment after snide comment. When I told my husband about it he shook it off telling me it was in my head and I was just feeling insecure. We got married a year ago. His mother wore white to our wedding, it was kind of weird but I decided not to ruin the day.
After we were married my MIL started sending me links to websites about trying for babies, and ways to keep husbands satisfied in a relationship. I let her know now was not the time for a baby but when it was she would be the first to know. At Christmas she bought the topic of babies at the dinner table in front of the family. “Have you guys been trying?”, “How frequently?”, “I have a few websites you can read”. I calmly shut it down, my husband said nothing.
When we got home I asked my husband why he didn’t say anything. He told me maybe it would be good for me to take the advice and instead of blaming his mother, take a harsh look at myself in the mirror. I was hurt but he apologised and everything went back to normal. Fast forward to Wednesday, my husband and I were dropping off some baskets for the easter egg hunt my in-law has for my nieces and nephews every year.
My mother in law said “you look like you’ve gained a bit, are you pregnant yet” I was floored, again my husband was silent. I told her no and she frowned, “from what I’ve heard you need to work a little bit harder in the bedroom, then it might work”. I looked at her and straight out told her to to go $%^k herself and mind her business. She told me that I was being too sensitive and I needed to show her a little more respect, she was just looking out for her baby.
I left immediately and went to the car. My husband followed me and asked what the hell was wrong with me, I told him straight out that she has no place in my sex life and I wanted to know what he had been telling her. He told me to suck it up, I need to respect his mother and that she means well. I was done, I wouldn’t even get in the car, I stood there yelling back and forth with him until my Uber came.
It’s been a few days and I’m staying at my sister’s house. My family have said I was right but I have received multiple calls from my husband’s family calling me a b%tch and that I should be ashamed of myself, and I should apologise to my mother in law. Fat chance, I just need to know if I am in the wrong, I feel like I’m being made to feel crazy. I’m slowly getting there. So am I a Jerk for telling my MIL to go ***k herself?
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