It’s upsetting when your attempts behind the stove aren’t recognized by your loved ones. Especially if you’re the sole cook. Read this story of a couple where an argument took place and let us know whether you agree with the wife’s reaction.
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My husband could burn cereal so I do all the cooking in the household, although he does balance the division of labor out pretty well with other chores. The problem is that he is chronically late for dinner.
We agreed months ago to have dinner at 6:30 every night to try and get the problem under control, but it hasn’t helped at all. Every day he gets home from work at 5:30, I remind him that dinner will be ready in exactly one hour and to make sure he is ready. Every. Single. Day. he sits down at the table 10 to 20 minutes late. Every single day he yells “I’ll be down in just a second!” from his computer room while I am sitting there watching my food get cold. Sometimes I say “&*^% it” and start eating my portion after it’s clear that he’s not going to be on time, which he is indifferent to mildly annoyed about depending on the day.
Yesterday afternoon, he texts me that we need to push back dinner to 7:30 tonight because he is going to be working late. I say I’m okay with that but he needs to be on time. He says of course.
He gets home at 6:45 while I am making dinner.
At 7:20 I give him a heads up that he needs to be ready in ten minutes.
At 7:30 I put food on the table. He yells down “Sorry, sorry! I am literally coming in one minute.”
At 7:35 I pick up his plate and empty it into the garbage.
At 7:45 he comes downstairs and asks where his dinner is. I told him that I threw it out because he couldn’t be bothered to be on time. He says “Are you $$$king serious? What am I going to eat?” and I say “Whatever you make.”
He throws a fit and ends up eating a handful of granola bars from the pantry and slept in the spare bedroom last night, and it’s been radio silence all day today.
I know I only waited five minutes but something about last night just made me snap. Like it’s not bad enough that he is never ready on time, but he makes me wait even on the day that he specifically requested a certain time? I get home at 5 every day so I have almost no time to relax when I get home from work, while he has an hour every day to unwind and he still leaves me sitting at the table waiting for him.
During his fit he told me I was being petty throwing out his food, that it was a “preformance” and I could have just eaten my meal without touching his food and that I’m in the wrong for wasting food. I haven’t stopped thinking about this situation all day and I don’t know where I stand. Did I go too far here? I need some advice on if I’m wrong.
