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So, some background: the bride (24f) and I (25f) have been best friends for 15 years, and we have always been on good terms with zero fights previously; this may be chalked up to the fact that I absolutely hate conflict so I always try to either deescalate situations or simply adhere to her wishes.
She has been planning a wedding for close to two years now, and she asked me to be her maid of honor as soon as she got engaged. I was ecstatic to be a part of this happy time for her, but that excitement has slowly started dying down because of how she’s been treating me the last few months.
My final straw with her happened over this weekend during her bridal shower. I arrived early to set up decorations, games, food, etc. before the event because I wanted to make sure she’d have a memorable day. Everything looked beautiful, and when my best friend got there, she looked thrilled. Until she saw my white nails. I could see she was staring at my hands and making a face, but she initially brushed it off when I asked what was wrong.
We started to get ready for some fun bridal games when my friend pulled me aside to have a private chat. I assumed it would be about how the day was going, but what she said honestly just hurt my feelings. She told me she wanted me to either rip off my nails or go home because she felt like the white nails were a subtle dig at her or a way for me to take attention off of her as white is 100% reserved for the bride.
I absolutely did not wear them on purpose; I had bought cute little press on nails for a date with my boyfriend and just hadn’t taken them off. Anyway, I told her no, I would not be taking them off because this situation was honestly ridiculous and it wasn’t like I was wearing a white dress or anything to take the attention from her. As I said before, I absolutely hate conflict, so I think the fact I was standing up to her caught her off guard. She looked stunned, and then she started tearing up and saying I was trying to ruin the day for her. Her mom came over to ask what was wrong, and I tried to explain it was just a misunderstanding, but my friend told me to leave because I wasn’t respecting her wishes as the bride.
I did what I was told and left the event, and now people are messaging me saying I should have just taken the nails off. Her fiancé even asked me to apologize and make up so the wedding can run smoothly in a few days. Apparently she didn’t think I’d actually leave and thought I’d rip off my nails after her threat.
Honestly, I’m just really confused about how this all happened. It’s making me question my friendship with her; my boyfriend said she’s acting jealous and I didn’t do anything to warrant her reaction. But honestly, I’m starting to feel like an a****ole. All I had to do was take the stupid nails off and let the day go smoothly. I genuinely don’t know if I f******d up or not, or if she’s just being controlling. So, am I a jerk ? What are your opinions? Please don’t be afraid to criticize. Thank you for your time in advance.
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