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I’m 17 and the youngest in the family. I was adopted at the age of 4, my biological mom was best friends with my adoptive mom and she adopted me after my biological mom passed away. Any reference to parents below refers to my adoptive parents.
I have three older siblings. My parents covered their college tuition in full and then covered law and medical school for two of them as well (the other sibling didn’t go to grad school). They also gave them a stipend to cover living expenses.
I talked to my parents about college and what help I can expect and surprisingly they told me there won’t be any help because they don’t have money left after they’ve paid for my siblings. I wasn’t expecting a similar level of support but I was expecting some kind of help, my mom told me that my bio mom didn’t leave money for my college so I’ll be on my own.
So I asked if this is really about money or if this is about me being adopted and not their real son. They were offended but reassured me that they genuinely can’t afford it after they purchased a condo for my sister earlier this year and it takes a few years for their finances to recover so it’s just my bad luck that this has coincided with me going to college and there’s nothing they can do now.
I called them out and told them that I’m not buying this explanation at all and they wouldn’t be doing this to me if I were their biological child, my dad reminded me that I’m acting in an entitled way and should instead learn that we don’t always get what we want. He told me that most parents can’t fund their children’s college tuition and I’m acting like I’m entitled to a tuition-free college when I’m not. But my point has been about being treated unfairly compared to my siblings.
In the end they told me that they don’t really need my permission or approval to support any of their kids and I just need to accept that this is their decision. I said in that case they also need to accept that I believe I’m being treated differently because I’m adopted and their answers have not been convincing. They told me I’m being an entitled brat.
Now I fear that I may have overstepped and indeed maybe I am being an a**h**e.
