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I (27F) have a 5 year old foster daughter named May. She has been with me for around 8 months now, and I love her to pieces. I’m considering adopting her, even.
My sister (31F) Kate recently suffered a miscarriage, and it took a real toll on her marriage. She is getting divorced from her husband, and has been staying with me because she can’t bear to live with him right now.
Kate, however, has been a horrible guest to May. Everytime May asks her for something, or talks to her Kate will burst into tears, or yell at her.
Kate is a great sister to me, and I understand that she’s grieving, but that doesn’t mean she can lash out at May for simply existing. I’ve told her off multiple times for yelling at May, but it all came to a head when I confronted her this morning.
May had asked Kate if she could move so she could get to the snack cabinet. Kate snapped at her to “wait for a damn second, brat”. I overheard from the living room and made Kate move out of the way and told her to apologize to May.
Kate burst into tears, saying that she just couldn’t take having May here as a reminder of what she’s lost. I told her she is a grown adult, and should know better than to bully a child for her own problems.
I told May to go to her room real quick, and Kate and I got into a huge argument, and I ended up telling her if she couldn’t take seeing my foster daughter, she could find somewhere else to stay.
She left to our parents’ house and told them everything. I’ve been getting massages from her all day now.
She tells me I am a horrible sister, and said that she was grieving and asked how I could “put someone else’s kid over her’s”. Which I think is a disgusting thing to send to anyone, personally I think she’s being insensitive to me and my daughters relationship.
According to my mom, she’s been crying for hours, and won’t stop talking about how I’m such a monster for not thinking of her feelings. Am I Wrong? I just don’t think she has a right to yell at my kid because she lost her’s.
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