Source: Reddit
Am I A Jerk? Hello. So to give some context, I f35 have been married to my husband, m37 for 6 months. He has 2 children from two different (uninvolved) mothers and they live with us full time. The kids are 7y.o. And 10y.o.
I work long hours and it’s a demanding job time wise. My husband thinks that just because I wfh that I can pause whenever but it’s untrue. He’d ask me to do things for the kids or him during work hours, but I told him I’m working and unavailable during those hours, and that the kids are his responsibility til I’m done.
Yesterday, He told me he wanted to go attend a friend’s engagement dinner and asked if I could “take time off work” to make the kids dinner. I told him absolutely not, and insisted that he cook for them or order takeout. He said he had no time to cook, and takeout was off the table since he doesn’t want them to eat fast food. He later said fine and that he was going to cook dinner then go to the party.
2hrs later, the kids came in and said they were hungry. I was puzzled, I asked if their dad cooked them dinner and they said he didn’t. Moreover!!! He told them to come ask me to cook for them at exactly 7pm. I was so pissed to find myself in this situation. I took a few minutes off the meeting and ordered takeout from the nearby restaurant and fed the kids, then had them watch tv then go to sleep.
He came home at 11PM and went off on me after he discovered that I didn’t cook like he was counting on me to do. Not only that, but he yelled about feeding the kids takeout. I argued back saying I had no choice after he basically tricked me into cooking for them knowing I was busy, so I ordered food and made sure the kids were fed while I focused on work. He ranted about how I care more about work than my stepchildren (God forbid) and called me selfish then went upstairs and refused to talk to me. He’s still sulking about it today and says I need to get my priorities “in order” cause they’re messed up.
Info – About that friend’s engagement. My husband has this friend from college. They’re close and he couldn’t miss the event. Moreover, he said he was upset with me for missing the event and now refusing to cook a homemade healthy meal and ordering takeout knowing it’s a “no go” for him.
Info – The reason I expected him to cook other than the fact that I was busy, was that he usually cooks for them so it’s both of our responsibility.
Info – Does he work? Yes, but barely. He works at a warehouse only twice a week. His friend’s dad owns the warehouse and he has a lot of leverage.
Info – More context on the mothers. One is an ex wife, the other is an ex girlfriend. Both left for financial reasons he said but I’m not fully convinced by that.
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