We have a tendency to perceive the start of a relationship through rose-colored glasses and ignore our partner’s shortcomings. But we all know it can’t last forever. We begin to recognize the minor elements that irritate or even annoy us somewhere along the path. And occasionally those small things might turn into large flashing red lights that indicate it’s time to reconsider your relationship. Read the story to know what happened between the lovers and share your views on this.
Source: Reddit
Hi so I’ve been seeing this guy “will” 27M for months now. He’s so sweet, funny and creative. Fun fact: he drives 2 cars that he adjusted/fixed on his own.
We don’t live together but we do meet at my place every weekend. He called and asked what we will be doing on friday and I said I wanted to host a GNI since it was my turn. He asked what the heck was a GNI I said a girls night in and he got quiet then asked if I was being serious. I was confused as he started talking about how outdated and sooo 1950s those events are and said that I should stop promoting and advocating for those events as they are sooo toxic and flatout reek of misogyny. I was shocked by his long rant but he said that was his honest opinion. I told him regardless I still plan to host the event after he tried talking me out of it and suggested we go out together. He threw a fit after he suggested bringing his guy friends to join us and I refused since this is not how GNIs work!. He called me sexist and misogynistic for having a girls night in and making it so obvious instead of being ashamed of myself. He said that my mentality will cause me issues in the future especially if I behave like that in a professional work setting. Let me tell you I was BLOWN AWAY by how he got so worked up like that over me just missing my girls and wanting to spend time with them. We argued some more and he hung up on me after I said I will not stop hosting or being part of GNIs no matter what he says about it.
I tried to call and apologize for lashing out later but he sent a text saying he was hurt by how I handled our small disagreement and needed time to process what he just found out about my personality. This hurt me but my friendship and the bond I share with my girlfriends is huge and I don’t want to risk years of friendships by no longer being part of our bonding activities. Am I A Jerk ? For making this my hill to die on like he says?
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