As appealing as it would be to live in a world where you could meet a spouse who shares your outlook on life, the fact is that no two individuals can concur on everything. So it’s not a couple’s commonalities that keep them together, but their willingness to work through their differences. Read the story to know what issue occurred between the couple and what should the wife do?
Source: Reddit
I’m a stahm and my husband works full time. We have 3 kids and one of them is 2 years old. My husband helps alot with the kids. He’s a committed dad but is absolutely against babysitters due to an awful incident with a babysitter that was the reason his younger male cousin James got disabled years ago. I don’t go out much since I have to take the kids with me and not every place is suitable for kids.
We received an invitation for my brother’s (who has been my husband’s friend since college) wedding which we later discovered was child free. My brother lives states away so the entire trip will take 4 days as well as my brother’s in laws weekend dinner party (their tradition) I told my husband I want to go since it’s been a while since I been to a wedding and this one is special and suggested we get a trusted friend as a babysitter. He asked if I was serious about leaving our 2 year old with a babysitter and suggested that I do what I normally do and stay home with the kids while he goes to the wedding. I refused and said I have as much right to attend as him since we both were invited. He said it wasn’t his fault my brother wants a child free wedding and I should do this for the kids and sacrifice for their sake. I still refused and said this was unfair and since he’s a parent too then he should also stay for the kids.
He looked at me and said “That’s my best friend’s wedding, you’re asking me to skip for Christ’s sake, are you kidding me?”. Then said I was being petty for suggesting this and that I was basically choosing to go and party over keeping our kids safe. He asked me to consider this a business trip. What would I do? Go with him and leave the kids?…. I said I understand his paranoia of babysitters but really all my friends have sitters and at times they’re really needed. He said I ought to know better than what my friends tell me and this wasn’t even up for discussion and when I kept arguing he called me selfish and said he won’t let me ruin his relationship with his friend because I was being spiteful for not being able to attend and that my brother will understand my situation.
He keeps asking who’s more important – a wedding party or my kids and said I was unreasonable for making my attendance the hill to die on.
Am I A Jerk? Am I being selfish for wanting to attend this wedding, my brother’s wedding after 4 years not attending anything?
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