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My F,33 sister F,36 passed away a month ago because of cancer. It’s devastating and words can’t express how we feel. Her husband struggled to pay off debts and has asked me and my husband to take him and my nieces age, 13 & 16 in for some time. I have to say that I’m not on good terms with him. We’ve had more than our fair share of disagreements in the past.
He tried to sue me and my husband for my own mother’s house which I’m living in with my husband and daughter. but he claimed he needed money to pay for my sister’s treatment and, this was the only way to get it after we (my brother and I) refused yo help. It’s a long story but we’re not on good terms.
I agreed to only take my nieces in but not him. He tried to negotiate this saying his daughters are grieving and need him, their remaining parent, to be around. I said he could see them during visits and that was it. My husband agreed with me at first. my brother in law showed up with my nieces days ago and I only let the girls in but turned him away after he tried to talk me into letting him stay. We had a huge argument and the girls went inside crying after their dad left repeatedly saying they wanted him. My husband is backing out of this saying we might be making a mistake separating the girls from their dad when they’re grieving.
My aunt berated me saying I messed up entirely here. I argued that it’s my home and I don’t feel comfortable with him staying after what he’s done. She called me selfish and bitter and said I’m making it more difficult for the girls who just lost their mom. Now the girls are quiet but my 16yo niece keeps arguing about wanting her dad with them. My husband still thinks we’re making a mistake and getting the girls to resent me to what I did to their dad who’s grieving.
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