Humans change. Typically, over time. Even in a marriage things change and at times there are certain clashes between the husband and wife. But the adversary of this narrative changed his mind in an instant when his and his wife’s wedding bells rang. Read the story to know what between this couple and what do you think the wife should do?
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I am getting a lot of comments saying my husband is abusive and I do want to reach out for help from a governmental organization to see if they help women. But the thing is I feel really guilty because he told me he would not treat me this way if I didn’t nag him (about lights, water, and trash). So I feel at fault.
I am posting here out of desperation because I have been having this discussion with my husband for months. I used to think I was reasonable but his inability to understand makes me think I am insane. Please help me with your objective feedback.
My husband and I live together in an apartment. I go to work every day at 7 am and by the time I get home at 7 pm the lights are on in every room and the water is running in the kitchen and the bathroom sinks. According to him they are on all day every day. I cannot work from home and we are wasting a lot of money.
I have asked him if there is any reason he needs to turn them on all day but he tells me that it is impossible to turn the lights and water off. When I told him it is not impossible because he can turn them off using his hands, he says “but you have hands and you choose not to work as a mechanic, so I also can choose not to turn it off.” I tell him that it is different because it costs money and is bad to waste resources but he insists it’s the same thing because I can technically be a mechanic but choose not to do so, so why does he have to choose to turn off the lights. When I am at home I turn them off after him and it doesn’t seem to cause him any discomfort to have them off but he just refuses to turn them off himself.
When I talk to him about it he says I am nagging him and that I should leave him alone. Is he right that I am wrong and is his mechanic analogy accurate? By the way we are a single income household and I know we could be paying less for bills if he would stop leaving things on all day long.
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