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My husband and I have 2 daughters, let’s call them Emma(32F) and Sam(29F). My husband died of a stroke 2 years ago and he left everything to me. I’m rewriting my will as well in case something happens to me. Originally everything was split 50/50 between the girls but now I’m splitting about 80/20 in favor of Emma.
Emma has ADHD and isn’t doing great in life. In those days everyone just assumed she was lazy and she didn’t get the help children today get until she was in her teens. She just managed to finish high school and is working at a retail store as a stocker. It’s backbreaking and she doesn’t have much in the way of savings or anything. Her car was her father’s when he passed.
Sam works in tech as a project manager and her husband is a doctor. They live in a million dollar house and have 2 kids. I’m not worried about Sam, she’s always been very capable and excelled at everything. She was always the overachiever and I don’t think she needs help financially. Her and her husband probably take home $500k after taxes a year.
I want Emma to inherit the house and car when I pass. I think it will be good for her because she can live in it or sell it and buy another one. Sam will be fine and her and her husband have several houses and a summer home. But Sam is angry with me because I’ve made it clear that Emma gets most of our belongings. The bank savings and stocks will go to Sam but if I live to the 80s she won’t have too much, probably 20-30% of what the house is worth. But I think it’s fair because she is doing much better.
Sam called me to yell at me saying I’m favoring Emma. I reminded her of how much worse off Emma is than her but she said since they were both my daughters she should get things 50/50 or it’s favouritism. She reminded me that growing up we always spent more on Emma than her. But that’s because she was at the top of her class while Emma was failing. I put Emma in extra tutoring and the like because she needed it more. She said I should give half of the inheritance to her children for college funds but I reminded her she makes more and can save for them. I told her it’s not about me favoring Emma over her but Emma is worse off and she will be fine which resulted in her hanging up and refusing to come over for Christmas.
I need some advice on if I’m wrong.
