When a woman marries, she generally takes on her husband’s surname. When you are divorced, this becomes an issue. Should you maintain your marital name or go back to your birth name? Here is a similar story below. Read the story to know what dilemma this woman is going through and what do you think she should do?
Source: Reddit
My ex-husband (who I’ll call him by his fake name Tony) and I broke up 2 years ago after 26 years of marriage. We have four children together.
Due to the stupidity of the time and social pressure, I added my husband’s last name to my name. So all my documents like identification, driver’s license, passport, all credit cards, voter registration card have his last name at the end.
We ended amicably even more due to the circumstances (he is gay) and we divorced.
Honestly, it would suck to have to change everything, go to government agencies, pay for everything new, go to the bank to change everything, so I didn’t want to take out his last name, but I introduce myself by my maiden name, only in the documents is it this name.
Tony is currently engaged to a guy and they are going to get married next year.
The situation that happened was:
Our son and his family decided to travel and invited me. He asked for my ID to make the reservations.
A few days later, Tony and fiance were at my grandson’s party. Our son said jokingly in the conversation circle that he couldn’t believe that until today I hadn’t changed my last name. I laughed, saying that I was too lazy to rush to change everything that has this name on it.
Tony started to ask if I really hadn’t changed my name, if I didn’t think that being engaged to someone else isn’t the best time to change it, and he insisted that it was weird of me.
I just replied: “Unless you can go in my place, spend hours and hours in lines, pay hundreds for it, I won’t do it in the near future”.
We stopped talking and the party flowed smoothly.
Later, he called me and said I was acting weird and a jerk by refusing to change the name, which he said was uncomfortable.
I asked our son and he said he understands my side of not wanting to do this, but he understands Tony’s side of being uncomfortable with his ex using his last name after the divorce.
So I ask for an outside opinion.
Am I Wrong ?
I don’t intend to never change, I just don’t want to go through it right now
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