Everyone has the right to wear what they wish to wear. However there is a dress code for every place like a school, corporate world and even for parties. In this story the co workers weren’t comfortable with this female’s dressing style. Read the story to know what happened and share your views on this.
Source: Reddit
We (the company) had a new employee “Christina” working in our section and she’s a nice lady in her late 30s. She’s married with kids. We had several conversations before. We worked close by and one time she was sitting and moved to the side and her already showing cleavage got clearer. The office got awkward and the guys there looked down.
It was obviously something minor but it kept happening. I had a couple of our male coworkers complain to me about Christina’s cleavage (I’m more of a tomboy woman so the men feel comfortable enough around me). They were saying that having to be forced to encounter a situation similar to the one I mentioned makes them uncomfortable. I couldn’t help but notice that all the clothes, tops specifically that Christina wears are designed to show cleavage. I brought it up to her the next day and casually pointed out how her cleavage was showing. She said nothing, just nodded at me. I went ahead and asked if she deliberately wears clothes that show her cleavage.
She looked offended and asked if there was a problem. I flatout said that it felt weird to me if this was the case and that it was kind of weird also that a married woman is okay with her cleavage showing at a professional workplace with male co-workers around. She got upset and asked how it was any of my business what she chooses to wear. respectfully, I told her she could wear whatever she wanted but some employees just don’t feel comfortable having been exposed to this kind of stuff at work. She told me that it was none of my business and that those who have an issue with her clothes should stop being cowards hiding behind me and come talk to her face to face.
We had an argument and some of my female coworkers agreed with me though said that I could’ve phrased this better. Christina started avoiding half of us which seemed unprofessional because part of our job is to interact but she chooses to stay away. I tried talking to her and another argument started with her saying she’d take this to the administrators if “I keep it up” but I was really just trying to talk things out. Am I Wrong for what I said to her? Did I approach this situation incorrectly?
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