Weddings are occasions to commemorate a significant commitment to unconditional love. People like seeing their close friends at their weddings and frequently send them remarkable and one-of-a-kind wedding invites for the occasion. Read the story to know what happened in this wedding invite and how would you react to such a situation?
Source: Reddit
My (20F) cousin Isabelle (26F) is getting married in January. I chose a set of Royal Albert plates from the gift registry and they’ve already been delivered.
The invitation said the ceremony would be first, followed immediately by meals and guests would start making their way to the reception hall. Invitation also said to “be prepared for a night of drinking and dancing” at the reception.
A couple of days ago Isabelle called me, we made some small talk. She then said she wanted to call just to confirm I knew the reception was more for partying, and it isn’t really suitable for me considering I’m not even 21. I said I’m fine drinking water and soda, but she replied the capacity for the reception hall is smaller so they’re not including younger guests. Mind you this is a child free wedding so there aren’t really any “younger” guests, I do not want to have kids around for the reception.
Isabelle said I’m invited to the ceremony and dinner. I was confused and told her this is really weird, the invitation said ceremony and reception. She replied she’s sorry for the misunderstanding but it said there would be drinking and stuff.
Eventually I told her okay, I respect that but if she could kindly send the plates back so I can get a refund. Isabelle asked why because I’m going to be there for the most important part and they’ve included me in the catering. I said I was expecting to attend the entire wedding, not half and I bought the gift based on that. I might not attend at all now, so she needs to send the plates back and I’ll decide on another suitable gift, if any.
She said no one takes back gifts and it’s not like I’m uninvited, if I don’t want to come now that’s on me and I’ve already gotten the gift.
I also got a text from my other cousin (Isabelle’s sister) that I’m making a scene (she’s 19 by the way and attending the reception. I know another cousin the same age as me is attending the reception), and I think Isabelle’s talked to other relatives about it. My fiance thinks I’m okay though. So was I the AH asking to return the plates?
Edit- I have a small update. I just got off the phone with my mom because I wanted to ask her if they’d picked a gift for Isabelle yet, otherwise they could potentially take mine and the whole situation. She said Isabelle called her also and said they’re welcome to the ceremony, but the reception is more for friends and partying. My parents are definitely above 21 and they also had a ceremony and reception on their invitation.
Parents were planning to give money so they haven’t given it yet. They think it was really rude of Isabelle to invite then uninvite, and they might attend the ceremony but not sure. And I am officially confused. Why not just have a ceremony on our invitations in the first place??
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