Every parent has their own way to bring up their kids. There is no right or correct method. Every parent wants the best for their kids. Read this story of a mother who had a conflict with her sister-in-law. Let us know how you would deal with the situation.
I’m 19f, I have a 3 week old baby girl. I do still live with my parents, but since I pay rent equally, they say I can have just as much of a say in who comes and goes from the house as they do. I’ve never actually taken advantage of this rule until recently. I have a brother, who’s 26 and his wife is 24. They’re “crunchy parents” to an 8 month old.
Basically what that is is ****king stupid, they use reusable wipes/nappies, think formula is the epitome of evil, baby wearing, the list just goes on. I’m the complete opposite, pacifiers, supplementing with formula due to low supply, disposable wipes and nappies. They are completely against the products I use and often give me things like SiLs breast milk in bags, disposable nappies their LO has grown out of, etc. I’ve used some but it’s not really my cup of tea.
On Monday night, my brother and SiL were minding my baby for me since it was my birthday and my baby’s father (not together, very close friends and co parents) took me to get some dinner in one of my favourite fast food places. It was great and really relaxing.
When I got home that evening, my SiL said that she did some cleaning and “threw out anything I don’t need”. This immediately gave me red flags but they were in a hurry to get out the door and left almost immediately. When I went into the nursery, every disposable nappy and wipe pack was gone and replaced with some reusable cloth ones. Same with my formula, there were 8 tubs and all of them were gone, I’m not able to replace them at the moment and solely breastfeeding isn’t sustainable for us.
I was extremely angry and I just turned my phone off to avoid being mean to my SiL. She and my brother came over yesterday to collect something they forgot and that was when I confronted her. I told her she has to replace everything she dumped. When she said she can’t afford to, I said fine, just get out and don’t come back until I’ve been reimbursed or everything is replaced with the original items.
My brother thinks I’m being a massive a***h**e and he’s on his wife’s side. Our parents think I’m being completely reasonable here but they think telling her essentially not to come back is taking it too far. Am I A Jerk?
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