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Three weeks ago, my husband died in a car accident halfway across the country. He said he was going on a work trip, but we later found out that all of that was just another one of his lies and he was actually on a cheating trip. Something he appeared to have been doing for at least the previous 5 years. So yeah… It’s been a very fun few weeks. Feel fantastic. Our children are 7f, 14m, and 19m. Only the eldest knows about the affair, and we all agreed to keep it to ourselves.
The problem lies with his partner. She wanted to be involved. I told her that wouldn’t be possible and she should respect our privacy. Even putting my feelings aside, though he’s trying to be strong for his younger siblings, my eldest is battling with his anger and grief. Having her there would only cause problems. Regardless, she was there when we arrived at the graveyard, standing some distance away, but she was still close enough to everyone to just make her stand out as if she wanted to be seen. I told my brother, and he removed her without causing too much of a scene. Afterwards, she sent me a text that basically called me selfish for blocking her from being there and saying I robbed her of the chance to say goodbye properly.
For some reason, this is slightly bothering me. I’ve found myself justifying my actions to myself repeatedly since receiving that text. I still believe I did what was right and put my kids first. She had no business there, and her presence would only cause drama. She could always go to his grave to say her final goodbyes. Was I the AH?
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