A parent may feel quite overwhelmed when raising a blended family. Every parent wants to make sure that everyone in the family is content. For a family to be happy and peaceful one must treat each member with respect and love equally. Read the story to know why this wife backed out with her kids and made her way out of the airport. Share your thoughts on this.
Source: Reddit
So, my fiance has 3 kids from his former marriage whilst I have 2, from my former marriage as well.
I quit my job to start focusing on getting my degree. He’s become the “breadwinner” if you will although I still contribute with my savings! I also do 80% of child-care and chores.
Long story short, He wanted me and my kids to attend thanksgiving with his family who are located across the country and we were supposed to go yesterday (ahead of time to get a rental place). He booked our tickets and everything but later, before the flight I found out that he, his kids and myself were put in 1st class whilst my 2 kids (14) & (10) were put in economy. I was stunned, he acted like it was no big deal and told us it’s just a few hours and the kids could “just hang in there for a little while”. I asked how he could think this was acceptable and he got mad and said he’s the one paying for tickets then we go by his rules. I immediately turned around and took the kids and made my way out of the airport. He started following us screaming at me to go back but I refused and told him that I no longer felt like spending thanksgiving with his folks after this. My youngest cried because she never flew without me.
He went with his kids. Me and my kids are home. He has not stopped calling trying to berate me and even had his mom text that I needed to get over myself and stop teaching my kids to be spoiled and entitled. She said that the fact that I was “willing” to miss thanksgiving with the family over something so trivial shows my real character and personality and mindset or “lack thereof”. I have not replied but I feel horrible.
Am I Wrong, should I have just let it slide and just went? In case I wasn’t clear, ME AND THE KIDS LEFT OUR FAMILY/HOMETOWN SO WE COULD GO CELEBRATE WITH HIS FAMILY IN HIS HOMETOWN. My kids weren’t too excited about leaving their grandparents for a week or so.
UPDATE I’m currently getting myself and the kids packed so that we can stay with my mother. This has happened BEFORE in other instances but I kept thinking to myself “this is not right but I have invested too much time and effort in this relationship so maybe this shouldn’t get in the way”..and I’d try to minimize most situations where I find my kids being put last. Not only that but he tried to give me an ultimatum regarding getting my degree and what was my response? “This isn’t right….” but kept making light of it and letting go. Now he’s probably badmouthing me to the whole family (and so is his mom, bless her effing heart)The kids and I are leaving, He’ll be coming back to an empty home…except he’ll find some company with the engagement ring that I took off and left on the nightstand. Distance and some re-evaluation is needed right now. Thank you to all who reached out with helpful input and perspectives. You’re right, my kids come first and that’s what I keep trying to do and I hope I won’t ever fail. Thank you so much for the support.
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