While some believe that weddings are family gatherings and that everyone in the family should attend irrespective of whether they can remain still for thirty seconds or not, others choose to have a formal evening affair with just those guests present who are eligible to vote. Read the story to know what happened at a child free wedding and share with us whether or not you agree this woman was wrong.
My husband (30) and I (30) got married 2 weeks ago, We decided on a child free wedding due to venue choice, food choice, alcohol, location etc…
We included this rule in every invitation, Including the one with my husband’s “bestie” Leo (35) who is a widower with 4 kids. Leo complained to my husband about the rule but that is that.
At the wedding my husband said he was worried his friend Leo may not come since “I” refused to let him bring his kids, But about almost an hour into the wedding, We start hearing noise from a distance.
We looked closely and saw Leo standing there with his 4 kids dressed nicely. He was arguing with the staff about the kids not being allowed. I felt horrible because the staff was drilling that this was an adult only wedding and the kids needed to leave but Leo kept arguing and went as far as to yell out my husband’s name telling him to come tell the staff off since it’s “his” wedding. I was so upset and embarrassed but I kept my composure and went over to talk to Leo.
I told him to either get the kids somewhere else and come back or just leave. He acted offended saying this is his best friend’s wedding and he was invited to it. I said I was sorry but the rule is followed by everybody, and everybody should respect that. He argued about how he wasn’t just a random guest but was family but I said it still applies. I insisted he make his choice but he doubled down talking about how he couldn’t find a babysitter and how he shouldn’t have to miss his best friend’s wedding. I had the staff escort him and his kids out after he kept pushing which led to some of my husband’s friends to complain saying Leo has special circumstances because he’s a widower and it’s essentially my fault for not providing babysitting options for guests.
The wedding went on after that, but my husband was angry. He said this is his best friend that I just caused to miss his wedding. He said Leo stopped answering his calls (til today) and responded to his messages because of what I did. Now my husband believes that I have just ruined his relationship with his friend when I could’ve just made an exception for him and the kids since they were there already. I need some advice on if I’m wrong.
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