I (36F) am not close with my family. I live in a different state, so I don’t have much contact with them. My brother (30M) got married last weekend and invited me. I told him I’ll come and not have a +1.
My husband and I recently separated, and after that I found out I was pregnant. My extended family didn’t know about the separation or about the pregnancy. I told my brother I was pregnant when we spoke on the phone before the wedding, he congratulated me and that was more or less it. My family also knew my marriage was very rocky. My parents also knew about the pregnancy.
So I am 7 months pregnant right now and getting a divorce. When I showed up to the wedding, everyone was super shocked to see me be pregnant and alone there. A lot of questions followed, I answered them with as little info as possible and that was it.
During the ceremony, the priest mentioned my pregnancy (it’s a small town and the priest has been there since I was a kid) to make a joke or whatever about what is next for the bride and groom – babies, something like “and after OP’s baby, hopefully many more will join this beautiful family of Bride and Groom”.
Bride was pissed off, because now EVERYONE knew I was pregnant. During the picture taking part of the reception, my brother says “okay and now I want to take a pic with my favourite sister and my FIRST nephew”. I laughed and said “niece, actually” and he was super happy, we took a pic, that’s it.
Bride came to me later and called me a Jerk for upstaging her wedding with not just my pregnancy but also the “baby gender announcement“. Her family is obviously on her side, my brother thinks she is acting crazy and I did nothing wrong, and my parents think I should have informed people I was pregnant before coming to the wedding + should have kept quiet about gender. Am I really the Jerk here?
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