A lady who has been nursing her third kid nonstop for over a decade insists she will continue to do so till he chooses to quit, even if he is nine years old.
Temeaka Tate has faced internet trolls and had images of her breastfeeding her four-and-a-half-year-old daughter reported to Facebook, but she is unconcerned about what others say.
She was happy she’d gone from not being able to nurse to solely breastfeeding, so she shot a lot of photographs, Ms Tate said of her nursing daughter Bianca.
They were all recorded as child abuse.
The 34-year-old dismissed claims that she was pressing Bianca to continue nursing after she turned four.
It’s not about their bodies or relationships, Ms Tate said of individuals who questioned her breastfeeding. No one was compelled.
She asks folks whether they’ve ever attempted to coerce a child into doing something they don’t want to do. She can’t make a youngster eat.
Ms Tate, from the border town of Howlong in New South Wales, said her nursing adventure began with a stumbling block when her son, Stuart, developed tongue knots and she had to pump solely for six months.
She was told she wouldn’t be able to pump for that long, so she told them to “watch her.” It was every two hours for the first four to six months.
She had a feeling that was the greatest thing for him. He was dairy and soy intolerant and refused to drink any of the safe formulas.
Ms Tate had hoped to tandem feed, but when she fell pregnant with her second child, Bianca, 15 months later, her milk dried up.
Bianca, now seven, nursed all the way through her mother’s third pregnancy, until the night before her baby brother Linton was born.
She was so desperate to tandem feed with her, she said.
She made sure her daughter got a breastfeed before going to bed the night she was in labor.
She asked her whether she still wanted milk the day he was born, and she answered, No, it’s his milk now, mom. The mom was devastated, but it was her choice.
Ms Tate stated that she planned to ‘manage’ how it would appear if Bianca still needed breast milk when she reached school age.
If she wanted to go to school, it would have had to be before and after, she explained.
Ms Tate stated that feeding her children in public did not concern her.
She also thought that nursing in front of Stuart’s nine-year-old pals, none of whom had ever seen a newborn nurse, would help them understand how natural it was.
One youngster asked if he could give Linton a bottle, and she responded, they don’t use a bottle, Ms Tate explained, so I had to describe nursing to someone else’s son.
While she didn’t get to fulfill her ambition of tandem feeding, Ms Tate was happy to report she had been nursing for nine years and had supplied milk to nine other babies during that period.
She stated that she would continue to nurse Linton, who is two and a half years old, for as long as he desired, even if it meant until he was nine, as her aunt’s kid.
Ms Tate dismissed any idea that Bianca was affected by the prolonged nursing.
Bianca is strong willed and as well-adjusted as her classmates, she explained. She had mom milk till she was four, she’ll tell her pals.
Pinky McKay, a lactation and parenting specialist, stated that while Australians thought of nursing primarily for newborns, the average age of weaning was between two and seven years.
Extended breastfeeding may be more rare in their culture than abnormal, said Ms McKay.
Just because one is not used to seeing a kid that age nursing doesn’t make it strange. It’s a two-way street, and one must let the youngster decide.
When mothers nurse for an extended period of time, individuals assume the infant is meeting the mother’s requirements, but there is no way to force a kid to breastfeed beyond their needs.
Ms McKay stated that the advantages of continued breastfeeding were many.
The nutrients have no use by date, and it’s a very excellent soothing tool, she says. It contains hormones like oxytocin, which can assist calm the youngster when he or she is sad or injured.
It’s like having a superpower.