Weddings are one of life’s most beautiful events. Most weddings have a theme or a dress code or a child free wedding or a destination wedding. In this story below the man and his fiancée are getting married soon and have picked a beautiful site. Read the story to know what happened and how would you deal with the situation?
Source: Reddit
I’m getting married this summer. At first we just wanted to have a ceremony in a pretty place without anyone, then 2 of our moms were added, then another 12 or so relatives. No friends of mine or my fiancee’s.
Then we decided to have a small banquet somewhere to celebrate. I found a beautiful place where you can rent a lakeside pavilion with staff and food. I really fell in love with that place.
But then in a few days my girlfriend gets a call from her mom who said: ‘hey, Steve came by (this cousin-in-law in question) and he said you should change the venue because the traffic will be bad after we’re done and go home’. My fiancee loves her family and hates disappointing people (aka a pushover) so she said ok. After she told me what happened I said he had no fu**ing right making claims like these and we haven’t even invited anyone yet! We told and showed pictures to moms and apparently my gf’s mom told Steve who was opposed to that place.
Well after we told gf’s mom that we’re appalled at Steve’s behavior (when you’re invited – if something doesn’t suit you just don’t come) it started a chain reaction among their relatives (I only have my mom, so no drama). He started pushing the narrative that he is not afraid of a traffic jam himself but was worried about his father in law (who’s almost 80), father in law’s wife had a fight with my girlfriend’s mom (who is her sister). So 6 people out of potentially invited 12 already said they weren’t coming to that place I want. All that without any official invitations yet!
We’re very stressed and surprised. We started planning the easiest least offensive wedding possible and some dude is afraid of a possible 1.5 hours drive back home.
But that’s not all. A few days ago he called my fiancee asking if she knew someone who could create a website for his company. He knows that’s my profession. She gave me the phone and the first thing he cheerfully said ‘hey future relative!’, I got some details and told him I’d think about it.
I told my SO that I’m not going to help him, he didn’t bother to call us to explain his point of view on our banquet location and instead started spreading god knows what behind our backs among older relatives who don’t drive and probably don’t even know the location. He might as well have told them it was a 10 hour ride to make them call and preventively decline the invitation (again, through my so’s mom). But when it came to his company and his profits he called us directly.
I told my fiance he’s a twat and I’m not going to help him, but she’s upset because she wants everyone to be super friendly to each other… Am I Wrong?
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