It goes without saying that wedding planning may be a poisonous recipe for a fight to erupt. Consider the amount of stress, pressure, and decision-making that the bride and groom face on what is regarded as the most significant day of their life. That concept alone is a challenge. A woman recently shared about how her soon-to-be husband grabbed her ideal wedding gown from the wardrobe and returned it without saying anything as he thought it’s a waste of money. Read the whole story and what would you do in such a situation.
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Me (f29) and my soon to be husband (m33) are getting married soon. Wedding planning has so far been going alright except for a few things he and I argued about like the venue and flower girl. Now we’ve been arguing about my wedding dress, This might sound clichè but ever since I was young I dreamed of having my own beautiful wedding dress, I can afford it but my soon to be husband thinks it’s not okay to waste a couple of thousands on a dress I’m only going to wear once — yes he might have a point there but for one, this is typical price for wedding dresses. and two, because it’s a once in a lifetime thing then why not make sure it’s special?
He still wasn’t convinced, and suggested I rent a dress instead of buying one. He started saying that I’m being irresponsible with money and brought up how much money I’ve already put aside to “rent a face” (he means makeup) and wear “fake” hair (he means extension) but I have this vision of what I want to…look like, sort of speak, on my wedding and I think that it’s my right as a bride. I went ahead and purchased the dress but a day later I found out that it was missing from my closet. I freaked out but he told me he returned it and got the money back. I was shocked. I asked him why he did that and he said he thought the dress was ridiculously expensive and that was wasting money and AGAIN suggested I go rent one.
I blew up and went off on him which I’ve never done before. He literally took a few steps back and told me to calm down. I said he had no right, I’m the one paying for the damn dress. He got upset and said that there’s no “I’m paying for it myself” in marriage and that my attitude is setting the tone for what type of dynamic we’ll have in our marriage, he kept on about how I must expect to him to pay for everything while I keep “my money” or spend it irresponsibly (but I never tell him how to spend his money) I responded that he gets zero say in how I spend my money whatsoever. he told me that I should grow the f up and stop with the “dream wedding dress” clichè then stormed off to call his mom who chewed me out saying she won’t let me ruin her son’s financial stability with how I deal with money generally. She too urged me to rent a dress or buy a cheaper one, way cheaper than the one I picked and move on but I declined.
