Establishing a joyful and healthy connection with your children can be a challenging struggle at times. The parent-child connection changes as we grow older, as many individuals realize that their parents just intended the best for them, and parents recognize that it’s better for them to let their kids go, experience the world, make errors, and learn from them. Even when people reach adulthood, their relationships with their parents might become strained. Read the story to know why a conflict took place between the father and daughter and what do you think the father should do?
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Hello all, I have 2 daughters named Kate (23F) and Alexa (16F). For starters Kate lives with me rent free and bill free. She used to live with her mother full time but her mom kicked her out at 18. I don’t blame her mother though. Kate was absolutely terrible in her teenager years. She was rude, disrespectful and would steal, smoke, skip class, etc. Kate barely finished high school and was put in a continuation school. Since this though Kate is doing a lot better, she didn’t want to go to college but she works at a fast food restaurant and is saving up for her own apartment.
Alexa on the other hand is the opposite, she’s amazing in school, works, volunteers and still has time to do sports and clubs. I’m extremely proud of her and feel as if she puts too much pressure on herself. Me and my girlfriend decided to surprise her on a vacation. Alexa has always wanted to go there and it wasn’t as pricey as we expected. We planned this in early October.
I told Kate about the vacation and asked if she wanted to come, but she would have to pay her own ticket. She said yes and would give me the money before Halloween. Well she never gave me the money even after being reminded, so I booked the trip November 1 for the 18-21 of November. I told my daughter this Sunday at dinner and she was very excited, Kate then said “ you’ll have to cancel and hope they refund. I work those days.” I told her she wasn’t coming since she didn’t pay. She was confused and thought I was paying for her. I told her that she was an adult who worked and lived free, why would I pay. She got upset and said because I’m her daughter and that I was paying for Alexa so why not her. An argument then happened which resulted in Alexa and Kate crying and Kate saying she hated me.
Kate has been ignoring us until we apologize and pay her ticket, which I won’t. Well yesterday Alexa sent me a link to a video on Tick Tock where it shows Kate crying and explaining the situation, but she lied about a lot of things in the videos and made Alexa and I look like bad guys. The video got a lot of attention and support. She even opened up a go fund me where she received close to 500 dollars. I showed my girlfriend and we were both livid, Alexa was also very upset about the comments which fueled my anger. When she came home a huge argument broke out and I basically kicked her out for the week.
She’s been posting on social media platforms talking about me, my daughter and girlfriend. My daughter even got some nasty messages on her social media. My girlfriend told me I’m right on this but my daughter told me to just pay for her ticket. I want to know if I’m making the right decision, so help. What should I do?
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