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My husband and I have been struggling with infertility. We’ve tried some options and right now we’re looking into Surrogacy, My sister agreed to do it but my husband said he looked at how much time and money IVF would take and slowly started hinting that we should take the traditional way. I was too shocked to even say anything but he acted like what he said was not even that big of a deal.
He explained that it’s just a quick way for us to have a baby and spare the money and time to use later. I’m 100 percent against it, that is why I’m backing down and am no longer comfortable with this whole surrogacy route…I can’t even imagine my sister’s reaction once she hears my husband’s suggestion.
I’m both devastated over the fact that 1, he’d even entertain having sex with my sister just because he wants the easy way and 2, if I ever agree despite feeling unconfortable then I will always carry this memory of how the baby is conceived. I refused and shut his suggestion down hard. He’s now started guilting me saying I don’t trust him then saying I’m selfish for choosing to back out when he still wants to be a dad like he expected when he married me. Basically blaming me for my infertility issues.
I feel so devastated and like my body is useless and has failed me to the point where I could expect any negative comment on it whether true or not. emotionally and mentally… I just can’t express how I feel right now.
By the way my sister is 4 years younger than me. I’m 34 years old and my husband is 37.
