Making financial choices in the face of death is a difficult responsibility, made more difficult when your plan contradicts the wishes of the rest of the family. The subject of who individuals “should” leave money to may quickly get confusing; every family is unique, and ideas about money and support range greatly. A lady in this story inquired if she was wrong to leave her money to charity rather than her daughter. Read the whole story and share your views on this.
Source: Reddit
I (58F) have stage 4 cancer, about a year left. I’m going to be leaving behind about $2M and have decided to take one last vacation and give the rest to charity. My husband (Bill 66M) is in good health, but he will be set financially and we have decided together that he doesn’t need the money. I do have a daughter (Amity 29F) and a son (Caleb 24M). She has 3 kids (14 and 1yo twins) and Bill thinks I should leave her half of the money.
He says she could use it and that would still amount to a million for charity. However, I don’t really want to give the money to my daughter. She had her son at 15 and because she was in high school Bill and Iended up raising him until he was 7. We also paid for Amity’s college. My reasoning is that we have already given her childcare for seven years and college, so she already received the payout from us even though I was alive and well at the time.
Though it seems Bill already told Amity we’d help her out and she was getting half the inheritance, so I had to correct her and tell her I’m not giving her or her brother any money. This has been blowing up the family.
Amity was furious because she says she’s in a bad financial place and she can’t believe I’m not helping her even though I could. Bill understands where I’m coming from but says Amity is living in a trailer and I could at least help her out. I already did help her, but Am I Wrong if I don’t include her in the will?
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