AITA? So my eight month old baby goes to daycare four days a week. Before all the anti daycare parents come, this is my only form of childcare. Anyways I love the center. It’s very clean and well taken care of. There’s an app where you get hourly updates which have never gone missed and you can request to see cameras whenever you want. The center is very highly rated and has a long waiting list.
I like the girls that work there, but there’s one particular girl that I just don’t really like. I didn’t care about her until one day when I was speaking to the director, I could see her holding my daughter and kissing all over her face. Yes my daughter was smiling and looked happy but I was disgusted. There’s a pandemic and I just felt it was too far. I brought it up to the director and she turned around shocked and said she would talk to the worker. I didn’t think it would be much of an issue moving forward.
But since I saw that I noticed she seems obsessed with my baby. She’s always holding her and cuddling her. I went back and looked through all the pictures they send and realized she’s literally in almost every single one. Mind you there’s five teachers in the room and lots of babies. I was picking up my daughter a few weeks ago and she wasn’t there. I was speaking to another worker in the room and asked her who’s my daughter’s favorite. She told me it was the girl and that my baby is her favorite and “her baby” and no one else can hold her except for the girl. It was an older woman saying this with a smile but I was just more creeped out.
What sent me over the edge was when I was picking up my daughter last week who was asleep on the workers lap when I walked in and as she handed her to me, she kissed my daughter on the forehead and said she was gonna miss her so much. She literally looked sad. Mind you there’s like a dozen other babies in the room too. I went out to the director and told her my concerns and that I felt uncomfortable with the worker with my daughter. I didn’t understand the specific fixiation. I recommended she get switched to another room because I didn’t want her around my daughter.
To my surprise when I was dropping off my daughter this morning the director called me into her office and let me know she ended up letting go the girl. I felt justified until I told the story to my SIL, my brother’s wife. She actually got upset and said she worked in a daycare throughout college and it’s normal to have a favorite baby and that she herself had a baby she loved in her center. She said I’m an a**h**e and that I overreacted and I shouldn’t have complained about something so dumb to a director since if they don’t fire her it’ll look bad on the company based on the type of report I made. And that I should be grateful someone really loves my daughter. I need some advice on if I’m wrong?
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