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My son was a bully.
1st grade I started getting noticed from his teacher that he was throwing sand at girls and stabbing people with a pencil. I talked to him and he had crazy first grade reasons like “she was being mean first”. I told him it’s not cool and to knock it off.
Every teacher meeting I would tell them to let me know and I’ll punish him.
Second grade. I meet the teacher. I warn her that I think he’s a bully and to watch him. Same shit starts happening. But now he’s being mean to specific people. Anyone that can’t run fast etc. I’m thinking to myself… I cant watch him all the time, what do I do. At home I start punish him but it doesn’t really do anything. All teacher conferences main agenda is bullying.
Third grade. I meet the teacher and warn her we have a bully on our hands. Same crap happens. I’m reading a book on the subject and I read a passage that says if you call a kid a bully he lives up to the role. Hmmmm let the experiment begin.
From that day I stopped calling him a bully and started saying things like “your going to help your teacher today right? You are a good boy. Make me proud by being a helper”. Almost night and day. The calls stopped. The next teacher conference, the teacher said how helpful he was.
He’s in 8the grade now. No bully calls. I make him do volunteer work weekly just in case. He still does crazy crap like attacking kids that are mean to girls but no bullying.
I don’t know if I caught it in time or if my kid just needed coaching but it worked.
