Every parent wishes their child to grow up, work well and be independent. A parent wishes their child gets a good job when he/she applies for the job the child desires. In this story a boy began sending job applications but never heard from any of them. Read the story to know why and what would you do in this situation?
Source: Reddit
My son “Aiden” (23) moved back in with us upon graduating college as my husband wanted. My husband’s original plan was to have Aiden live with us for free, but stay home and help with his disabled younger brother (16). Aident started complaining about needing money and wanted to find a job. My husband was against this and even offered to double his allowance but Aiden was growing tired of staying at home.
So he began looking for jobs here and there for over a year but none of his job applications came through. He’d just apply and they never get back to him. We were confused by this til recently, I found out that my husband was behind all the job applications being cancelled. He’d wait tol Aiden applied then he proceeds to cancel the application by impersonating him and using his email. I blew up at him for this but his justification is that he’s just trying to make sure that our younger son is cared for by Aiden and said that Aiden has been a big help and him getting a job will affect his care for his brother. I went ahead and rented an apartment for Aiden and told him to stay there till he finds a job and starts paying for it himself. Aiden was hurt upon knowing what his dad did. My husband was livid when he found out. He called me unhinged and said that I was separating the boys and teaching Aiden to become selfish and care more about a job than family. He also said it was a huge decision for me to rent an apartment without even running it with him.
He’s been giving me hell about it and is calling me a terrible mother for encouraging Aiden to be selfish and self centered. He said I needed to see and understand why he did what he did.
[Edit] few things to mention:
(1) My husband says that since he and I have health issues then we could use Aiden’s help.
(2) When I suggested outside help, my husband refused saying he won’t ask anything from anybody and that his son is his problem and nobody else’s.
(3) I used money from our joint account to pay for the rental apartment. My husband said it was wrong and that it was a major waste of money since we deal with medical bills consistently.
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