Babysitting may be both enjoyable and rewarding. The only problem may be choosy parents. There are so many rules which are ok. However, guidelines must be clearly stated so that there are no misunderstandings. Read the story to know what happened and how you would deal with such a situation.
Source: Reddit
I hired a babysitter for my 5 and 3 year old kids 2 weeks ago. My husband works shifts while I work long hours at a marketing company.
So far we’ve had no issues until yesterday. I came home at 6pm and noticed the babysitter’s wet hair and new clothes. She told me she took a shower after one of the kids spilled milk on her. I was confused but visibly upset but she tried to “reassure” me the kids were fine, because my husband watched them while she took her shower which only lasted for a few minutes. I was more confused that my husband was home when he had a shift to cover. I told her I didn’t think it was appropriate for her to shower in my home like that. She argued that it was fine and that she had no choice and couldn’t leave the milk on her like that.
We argued and my husband heard the commotion and got involved. He said it was not as big of a deal as I was making it out to be but I told the babysitter that I did not appreciate how she basically ignored how I felt about this and dismissed my feelings still. She went home, but we still argued on the phone. She thinks she’s done nothing wrong and said I was being unfair when I mentioned potentially cutting from her salary after that.
My husband keeps saying that I’m overreacting and the “poor girl” couldn’t handle having milk stains on her body and clothes. But I couldn’t help feeling it was inappropriate and she should have checked with me.
Am I A Jerk for my reaction? Just for info. I’m the one who pays her, not my husband. I told her to call or text (always available) if anything happens. I didn’t even know my husband was home at the time! If you noticed, I said that I argued with her even before she told me my husband was home. And no I didn’t know how big the stain was but she argued about being covered in milk for 6+hrs. As for the question of why my husband didn’t go to work? He said he was feeling a bit sick and swapped shifts with a coworker.
The babysitter is 24. She said she has experience and yes she normally brings a bag of clothes, wet wipes and stuff like that with her.
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