You are a working mother of two sets of twins, but your husband complains about the state of the house and often leaves all the chores to you. When you asked him to watch the kids so you could have a night out with friends, he got angry and cursed at you. You ended up leaving for a whole weekend, and when you came back, the house was a mess, and your husband had left to stay with his mom, leaving you feeling guilty and worried about your marriage.
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I (24f) have 2 sets of twins. The first set are 5 years old boys and the second set are 3 year old girls.
My husband (27) always complains that the house isn’t up to his standards and that it’s a mess or that I sometimes put on frozen meals instead of cooking a fresh dinner.
It’s super irritating because I’m expected to do everything just because I work from home. He thinks that I have an easier than job then his which is physical labor.
I can never do anything because when he has time off all he wants to do is sleep and says he needs it because he is exhausted from work or he wants to use his break to hang with his friends.
So basically all the chores are usually thrown on me and I had enough of it and it came to show when my friend called me to hang out and when I asked my husband to watch them so I can go he went into a rant about how he’s tired and been working all week and the least I could do is watch the children so that he could get some rest because I’m home all day with easy work.
So I decided after I put the children to sleep that night to leave a note saying that I’ll be out just leave and have a night out with the girls which ended up turning into a weekend out with the girls.
When morning time came he was calling and texting me nonstop and when I answered he was yelling at me and cursing me out. When my friends overheard the conversation they were shocked and hanged up the phone for me and told me to mute it.
I didn’t have any plans to stay any longer than that night but when my friends overheard how my husband spoke to me they convinced me to stay and even told me they’d take me out to eat and planned a whole day for me.
When I got back the place was a complete and utter mess like a pile full of dishes, garbage all over the place, floors were sticky, there was pee all over the toilet and the place just smelled awful.
My husband of course was angry and had a suitcase already packed. He barely said 2 words to me and just left and texted me saying he’ll be staying with his moms. Now I feel horrible because clearly he couldn’t handle taking care of the kids for this long by himself and I feel like an a**hole and don’t want this to ruin my marriage.
Do you all think I’m wrong for the way I acted?
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