I doubt I would be too delighted if anybody asked me to prepare them dinner at two in the morning. Furthermore, in this story one woman asked if she behaved inappropriately when her spouse told her to do it. Read the story and let us know how you would have reacted.
So, My husband (27) has been coming home late recently. I’m talking 2-3am, kind of late. I don’t know what he’s doing out that late at night but he says his evening shift tends to extend and he works “extra” hours.
Anyways I’m a new mother, I’m constantly exhausted and I get only a few hours of sleep. Normally when he’s out so late I have my dinner and not put anything aside for him because he obviously eats at work like he said. On Thursday I get woken up by him shaking me at 2:45 in the morning. I ask him what he wants and he tells me he’s hungry and wants to eat. I tell him that I didn’t have dinner put aside for him thinking he’d already eaten at work. He loses it on me and asks “are you f**king crazy? ate at work?”. he then demands I go make him dinner. Dinner.at.2.in.the.morning.
I snap at him and yell at him asking what dinner is at 2 in the morning. He then throws at me that he was working all day then asks what I was doing all day. The baby gets woken up which makes me madder. I start arguing with my husband and he storms out of the room saying I should make it up to him after I decided to not save dinner for him then goes on comments on how much I eat and how much weight I’d put up lately. I refuse to make dinner and he ends up going to sleep without eating anything.
He goes into radio silence after telling me he works hard for this family compared to me and that the least I could do is have dinner ready for him whatever the time is. Am I A Jerk for not getting up to make him dinner at 2 and snapping at him after he insisted? What are your opinions? Did I over react?
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