Source: Reddit
Recently, my fiance and I just had a baby after struggling with IVF for years. He has three previous children from two separate relationships and a mom who lives with her questionable boyfriend not too far away. I am buying a home, I am putting the money down myself and I am furnishing this home and paying the mortgage without his help. But he wants to move his kids in and he wants to move his mother in and he keeps saying that I should be okay with that as we are a family.
I’m not. I’ve waited a long time to start my own family, and I really don’t want to take in his kids, be the financial breadwinner for four new people and be a stranger in my own house. I made it clear to him that if he’s going to move in he has to help with the bills and it is our home with our new child. I feel like his exes are so excited to lob off their kids on me and his mother is just looking to leave her bad relationship and come live for free in my house. I feel used by all of this and I feel like he’s not considering how I feel at all. I’m a new mother. I want my new home with my new family on my terms. Am I acting selfish?
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