Chores aren’t the most enjoyable thing in the world, but they’re necessary. However, not everyone is eager to contribute. Even amongst loving partners, chores may be a source of friction. In this story a woman is in one of those all-too-common situations in which she is the one cleaning up after her partner as if she is the only adult in the house. Read the story and what you would have done.
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I have come to realize my bf rarely moves items back to their original homes. Yes, I have talked to him about this and we haven’t resolved anything, hence the post here.
So, my boyfriend will not put anything back to where it should be. This includes kitchen utensils (I’m not OCD, I just think the cutting knives should go near the cutting board), toilet paper, qtips, and most recently, the cat food feeding scoop.
Specifically, he feeds the cats in the morning, and leaves the scoop by whoever he feeds last (they’re all fed in separate rooms, we have a fast eater). I feed the cats at night, and have to wander around until I find it, and then I put it back in with the cat food, which is where he goes in the morning. I started replacing it to exactly where he leaves it now, and he’s getting annoyed it’s not in with the food in the morning.
Toilet paper. He will never replace it. So I started bringing my own roll into the bathroom, and if the bathroom roll is empty, I don’t replace it. This goes for the qtips as well. He won’t replace them in the bathroom. I have not replaced them in a month and it seems like he just stopped using them…
Finally, when we go grocery shopping, he just shoves all the bags into the fridge/freezer/pantry for me to empty later. I have stopped emptying the bags and organizing the fridge, and just removed my item from the bag and left it as it was. This probably upsets him the most, since last time he put a pack of chicken in the pantry, that I “didn’t notice”. I really didn’t notice it though, that’s what he said to me. I assumed he at least checked the bags to be going in their general locations.
Anyway, we have been fighting about this and today he got upset that the cat food scoop was not with the food, and in the kitchen (where he left it). Am I A Jerk for trying to make a point that I can’t constantly be fixing everything?
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