Marriage is a beautiful journey with highs and lows. Every marriage has its ups and downs, but it is up to you to determine how much “down” you can tolerate. In the end, a good and successful marriage requires both partners. Read the story to know what happened between this couple and let us know what the wife should do.
Source: Reddit
I 24F filled for divorce 2 weeks ago. I realized my husband 32 does not value me as a person. We lost our 1st child at 6 months and it was truly crushing. We deal with guilt quite differently I suppose since one week after, he wanted to start trying again for kids. I kept trying to tell him no but he just didn’t want to see my perspective.
Two months after my stillbirth, I got my cycle back. But since my husband was so insistent on trying again, I actively hid it from him. I felt terrible for doing it, but what else was I supposed to do? Then, for my daughter’s due date, he tried to force me to attend a memorial at his parents house. I felt betrayed because his mom and sister treated me horribly, but he somehow thought I’d want to spend the hardest day of my life with them.
I didn’t attend the memorial and instead stayed at a friend’s house to reconnect and spend the day my daughter was due at the beach. Despite all of the bad stuff my husband has done, I still feel really bad about leaving him. My mom is disappointed and hubby’s family has been sending me awful messages. I too feel like a failure. I failed to safely deliver my daughter into this world and failed to meet my family and my husband’s expectations of me.
At this point I don’t know if I’ll ever want to be pregnant again. I lost my baby 3 months ago but it feels like it happened just yesterday. Part of me thinks that my daughter’s death was God’s way of giving me a final chance to leave my husband. And I feel absolutely horrible for feeling that way.
I’m sorry for this being so ranty. But it helps to write it all out I guess. Maybe some of you have had similar experiences. But hopefully no experience with stillbirths.
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