One must respect and treat their spouse with love and care. However in this story a sister-in-law noticed how badly her brother treated his wife. Read the story to know what happened and let us know what you would have done in such a situation,
I know gaslighting is a term that gets thrown around a lot lately… So please correct me if I’m not using it right… But I think I am. So to start, I’m 23 years old, a female. My brother is 34 years old, and he’s married to a girl who is 21 years old. They have three kids together. He treats her like crap and no matter what I say to her she’ll just make excuses for it. She’ll say “he’s tired from work” or whatever, and it will reach a point where if I talk too badly about him she’ll get annoyed with me and stop talking to me for a while.
Anyway I recently heard he cheated on her. The person who told me is a reliable source, so I’m sure he did cheat but I don’t have any solid proof. I still don’t know if I should say something to her or not since I don’t have proof.
She’s talked to me a few times about things she’s noticed off that I’ve told her were red flags that she should look into. One of the things was his “longer hours” at work. She said she was talking to one of his coworkers wife’s and mentioned how hard the longer hours have been. The wife had no idea what she was talking about, her husband wasn’t working any extra hours. I told her that was weird and she should look into it. She ended up asking my brother and he gave her a BS excuse about how just his department was working late. I pointed out the woman who she talked to’s husband worked in the same department as my brother. She was just like oh I’m sure there are smaller inner departments we don’t know about.
Then she found texts on his phone. Like straight up cheating texts. She confronted him about it. And he said it was one of his coworkers texting his girlfriend from his phone.
The last thing I’m putting (there are more but I don’t have the room for them all) is that she found a ring in their SUV that he used when his truck was in the shop. He claimed it was mine, it must have fallen off when I used the car to pick up their kids. She went to return it to me and I told her it wasn’t mine. When she asked my brother again he told her he hadn’t meant me, he meant our other sister or one of her friends but she never picked up the kids (none of them even have their licenses) so why would he have said she used the car to pick up the kids and that’s when the ring got in there if she never has before?
How can I get her to snap out of it without getting her mad?? I really don’t have much of a relationship with my brother to be honest. I have a relationship with her because we were both in cheer together in high school. What should I do?
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