Having a blended family is difficult. Building a relationship with your stepfather, stepmother, or even step kids takes time and work. Although it is not always feasible, one should try to build a nice relationship. Continue reading to find out what happened in this mixed family and to offer your thoughts on the subject.
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I f35 married my husband m38 2 years ago. He has a son named Caleb, age 15. His mom is super involved and shares custody of him with my husband.
Caleb and I were doing fine at first. But after marriage I noticed he’s been wanting to do almost everything with his mom and exclude me. Even when it’s my husband’s time to have him, I’m excluded from any activities and my husband would tell me to give it time. In the past he’d get involved but now says I’m being too pushy.
Caleb’s 15th birthday party was last week. My husband said the party was going to take place at a park but the problem is Caleb wanted his mom there, and his mom refused to come unless I’m not there. I was in shock when my husband “advised” me to sit this one out. It’s not like I’m there in every event?. I didn’t make a fuss. I said if that’s what Caleb wants then why not?
The day of the celebration, The birthday cake was ready from the bakery and my husband called me telling me to pay for it. I asked why and he said he didn’t have money to pay for it himself.
I asked why Caleb’s mom wouldn’t pay and he lashed out rushing me to just go ahead and pay and we’ll discuss it later. I said no, I will not pay since I’m not even invited to the birthday. I hung up after he tried to start an argument.
He came home fuming saying he couldn’t grasp how petty I was to refuse to pay for the cake knowing he had no money. I said he never told me I had to pay. And also I’m not obligated to pay even when he’s unemployed and can’t afford it.
He yelled at me saying I put myself above his son and showed him that I’m fine with ruining his birthday. He stormed off and ended up getting cupcakes for the party. His sister called me and accused me of ruining Caleb’s birthday when I could’ve just paid and being uninvited wasn’t an excuse to “neglect” my duty as a stepmom.
My husband’s still so mad about it and said he just discovered a real petty side of me he never knew I had.
ETA: It was a 4 – layer cake with Caleb’s favorite flavor and topping. The cost was $110. May not seem much but my salary is barely covering everything in our home.
ETA2: for the people who are asking why $110 cake For a 15 year old. I had no say in the matter, I didn’t even know I was expected to pay for it. That was an instant no from me and its cost was one of the reasons why I said no.
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