Many people will “dress for success” in order to create a favorable impression. Wearing attire that they would not typically wear in order to appear elegant or smart. Even if the outfit isn’t really comfy. Read the story to know what made her fiance so angry. Let us know if you agree with his reaction. What would you do in her situation?
Source: Reddit
My fiance (m31) and I (f26) got engaged several days ago. This is relevant, he’s tall and I’m in the 5’s category, pretty small compared to him and his family. He asked that I wear high heels at our engagement party since there was going to be photos. Although I wasn’t comfortable (not a fan either) with high heels, I decided to wear them just for his sake since he begged and pleaded and also since he promised I would be sitting most of the time.
But at the party he had me stand for hours to welcome the guests (there were like 20 guests) with him. I got so tired of standing and my feet and legs were on fire. I asked if I could sit but his mom said I’m the fiancee and should stand next to my partner not just sit like the party had nothing to do with me.
I told my fiance again that I was in so much pain but he said “suck it up, it’s almost over”. I had enough of it, I took my heels off and let my feet and legs cool off. He and his mom looked at me in utter confusion. Several of his family and guests saw me barefoot as well. He freaked out asking what I was doing. His mom asked that I put my heels on but I said my feet were done and I couldn’t do it anymore. My fiance begged me but I stood there til it was over like he wanted.
The minute I got in the car he flipped out.. saying I embarrassed him in front of family and friends by standing there barefoot and refusing to put my heels back on even after his mom repeatedly asked. I reminded him that he said I wouldn’t be standing but turns out it wasn’t true. He argued that for someone with a height like mine, then I should wear high heels more often, and said I should’ve sucked it up for his sake. He went upstairs and turned his phone off and refused to speak to me.
I had no intentions of embarrassing him and I do feel I should’ve sucked it up. but I think that he wasn’t truthful about how long I was expected to stand. Am I A Jerk in this situation ?
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