Source: Reddit
This is a bit of a weird one, thanks for bearing with me.
I’m pregnant with twins at the moment, something I’m struggling with a lot as I don’t want to and will not keep them. Due to loads of personal reasons I decided not to be involved in their lives. (Even strongly considered abortion before.)
My plan was to give them up for adoption, but their father (who I have no relationship with) decided he wants to keep them and there’s not much I can do about that. However, I made it clear to him that I will move away once they’re born and want to know nothing about them, sign away my rights, etc.
In my last appointment he wanted to come, and I agreed, though I said I didn’t want to find out their gender. He asked if HE alone could find out and he wouldn’t tell me. (He can come across quite strong and I struggle with being assertive like that, so I agreed.)
Little bit later and he already let me slip what they are, which has made me incredibly upset. He says he didn’t do it on purpose but I don’t believe him. (He wants me to be their mom.)
I told him I don’t want him joining any of my appointments ever again and would prefer to see him as less as possible until they’re born. He thinks I’m completely overreacting and as he will be their only parent, he should be there ‘so at least one person who cares about them is there’. He wants to be as involved as possible now.
Am I A Jerk for telling him he can’t ever come to my appointments anymore (taking away this experience from him) and I don’t want to speak to him anymore (not more than necessary)?
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