Being pregnant, having children are a blessing. Be it normal delivery or c section mothers are mothers. Each mother goes through different phases during motherhood. Some are to breastfeed their baby while some can’t but that does not make them less of a mom. Read the story to know what happened between this mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Let us know if you agree with what happened.
Source: Reddit
I already know the answer to this, I just want everyone to tell me what a B**** I’ve been.
My daughter was born 3 years ago. After 36 hours in labor I had a C-section. After I had trouble breastfeeding, my milk never came in properly and after 2 months of pumping and supplements and praying and crying we gave up and switched to formula completely. I had my son 3 months ago, via section. I tried breastfeeding but again it didn’t work. I gave up quicker this time, and we are using formulas.
My MIL has spent the last 3 years crowing about my failures as a mother. All her children were born naturally. She had no trouble breastfeeding. Csections are for quitters. Her body was just made to be a mother, but don’t worry dear, I’m sure you’re good at other things. Blah blah blah. It’s ramped up with the new baby. Every time I see her, which has been a lot, just little passive aggressive digs at me.
My husband has asked her to stop, my FIL told her to stop, but she just plays dumb. For 3 years I kept quiet to her face, but she made me cry more than once in private. There was a little while, about 2 weeks postpartum, where I went to a seriously dark place and questioned whether she was right, whether I shouldn’t have become a mother and if they would be better off without me. I’m feeling better now, and those feelings aren’t all her fault, but she sure didn’t help.
Important info, my husband has 2 brothers. His mom had a late term miscarriage of her only daughter, and she always wanted a girl.
Anyway, this past weekend they were over for dinner and my husband was feeding the baby. She starts in loudly about how she never needed bottles because she made so much milk, and how she guessed she was just such a natural mother, and how it just seems so wrong to give a baby formula, and she was such a perfect mother, practically a fertility goddess, and I was such a failure.
I’m sleep deprived and hormonal and I’ve put up with this for years and I just snapped. I said “At least all my babies are alive”.
As soon as it came out of my mouth I wished I could stuff it back in. She got real quiet and they left pretty quick after without really saying anything.
I firmly believe I’m the a**h**e, but my husband thinks she deserved it after all the pain she intentionally caused me. So tell me, am I right or wrong?
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