Family life is one of those situations where you never know where or when you’ll upset somebody or hurt someone else’s feelings. And, certainly, if schools taught a skill called “Family Negotiating,” the world would be a much more pleasant place. Relations between daughters-in-law and mothers-in-law in families have been a source of contention since ancient times, and the contemporary era is no different. As with one case, where the wife chose to complain online about her own 1-year-old son’s grandmother’s conduct. Read the story and let us know what you think about this situation.
Source: Reddit
MIL loves her birthday. She kept joking when I was pregnant that if I went into labor on her birthday (2 days before my due date) I better hold him in. Well karma, he was born on her birthday and she was not pleased. MIL came to the hospital for about ten minutes, but said she had plans and left.
This year she is turning 50 and he is turning 1 and the day falls on a Saturday. I was super excited that I could have his first party on the actual day, and immediately started making plans. MIL said she is having a party that day, so I need to do this another weekend. I thought that was ridiculous because one of them is a little kid and it isn’t her. I know technically we could do this in the afternoon and hers at night, but my in-laws throw crazy parties. Her fortieth was like the size of a wedding and it requires lots of prep, hair, makeup, so it really wouldn’t fit.
I refused to move the date of his party. MIL got mad and said he won’t even remember. FIL told me my son isn’t the end all be all and she was born first. I told MIL she was being a crybaby and to build a bridge and get over it. I said he is a little kid, so his is more important than hers, and she can do her ridiculous pageant/birthday party another day (didn’t say that part out loud)
MIL is now not talking to us, but not changing the date. This means the family will go to her party, and I feel like she is being really immature. I have no regrets for what I said, but her daughters called me an a***ole and now aren’t talking to their brother. I need some advice on if I’m wrong.
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