In-law relationships are usually turbulent. This isn’t always the case, but it appears that when two families try to join together, there are a lot of complications that develop. One lady is facing two in-laws at the same time: her mother-in-law and brother-in-law are all attempting to persuade the woman’s mom to leave her own house so they may have it. Read the story and how would you handle the situation.
Source: Reddit
When my (34f) father passed away 6 years ago, we were very well off, so my mom, brothers (29, 26) and I ended up inheriting a lot. My brothers live abroad and didn’t want the hassle of dealing with the properties so they signed their shares over to me. After discussing with them, I sold off all the properties except for a 1 BHK in an area that is at the outskirts of the city.
That apartment was being occupied by a long time employee of our family business and we let them live there for free. With my money and some of the “family money” I bought 2 flats (3 bed, 3 bath) in a really nice building. It’s got amazing security, a gym, a terrace garden and a swimming pool and is in a really nice location. I took one flat and my mom lives in the other. We are really close to our mom and she’s a super chill lady who has been the best mom we could have asked for. Our dad was very controlling and made her miserable so we are determined to do whatever we can to really let her enjoy her life now.
Now the issue- my husband (36) and I have been married for 3 years. He moved into my flat because his parents and brother live in a 2 br flat and we would have no space. Plus my MIL is not a fan of how I’m not subservient to my husband and am independent and run my own business, so we felt the space would be better. Now 2 things have happened. My BIL (38) has gotten engaged and our long time employee has retired and is moving back to his hometown, which means that his flat is going to be empty. I guess my husband mentioned it to my BIL who is now saying that I should move my mother into the 1 br and let them (FIL, MIL, BIL and FSIL) move into my mother’s flat. I refused. At most, I could probably let BIL move into the 1 br flat, but he doesn’t want it because it’s so far away from the city.
Well, my MIL and BIL didn’t like that I said no so they went behind my back and asked my mom if she would move. My mom is a sweet lady and she didn’t want me to have issues with the in-laws so she told me that she would be okay with moving. I was fuming mad and I told my brothers and they agreed that they would not want my mom to move. I was going to politely tell them no, but when they came over, I heard my MIL and BIL tell my husband that he was “not a man” and how he could not support his family. That I was a controlling bi**h and my mom was just a widow and didn’t need much in life any way. She should be grieving and not enjoying luxuries.
I lost my sh*t and yelled at them to keep their paws off my mother’s house and to get out of mine too. My husband agreed that they were really rude and horrid, but also said that I shouldn’t have yelled at his mother and that he was trying to sort this amicably. I was still pissed and told him I wanted nothing to do with people who spoke about me and my mom this way.
So am I a TA for blowing up at my in-laws and then telling my husband I want nothing to do with his family.
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