Anybody who has a teen understands that parenting an adolescent is full of ups and downs. It may be exhilarating and entertaining one minute and draining and irritating the next. Read the story of this mom and her daughter and what would you do in this situation?
Source: Reddit
Hello. I (49F) have a 17 year old daughter. Throughout middle and high school, she has had some problems with smoking and vaping. I have gone through her room and belongings on several occasions when she has not been home to try and make sure she is not doing anything illegal, and most of the time, I don’t find anything, but I can never be too sure.
She is over a month into her senior year and has really let her grades slip (she is normally a straight A AP student, but she has several Bs in the grade book right now). I am very disappointed in her, as this is her senior year and she should not be screwing around like this.
Last night, while she was asleep, I decided to go through her room, because I figured if her grades were this poor, she must be misbehaving. I looked through her drawers and closet, but I couldn’t find anything so I decided to look through her phone. To do this, I had to get on her bed and reach over her, as she sleeps with it by her pillow facing the wall. While grabbing her phone, I saw her wallet and decided to look through that too. I gave up on looking through her phone because I couldn’t figure out her password, so I opened her wallet and started looking through it. In her wallet, I found an empty vape pod and saw red.
I woke her up at about 5:30 and confronted her about it. She told me that she didn’t even know it was in her wallet and that she didn’t even understand why I was mad because I know she quit months ago. She then asked me why I was even going through her stuff in the middle of the night, especially since she gave me no reason to, and then she said I was an AH and completely betrayed her trust. So Am I A Jerk for going through my daughter’s room while she was sleeping?
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