It’s no surprise that weddings cause a lot of stress. Every bride and groom want their wedding to be remembered as the happiest day of their lives, and it is totally up to them to make the choices that most reflect their beliefs. However, the urge to have everything perfect creates drama, tension, and unscripted emotions. Scroll down to read the whole story and share your thoughts on this.
Source: Reddit
My (25F) brother-in-law (20M) proposed to “Tanya” (20F) after 2 years of dating. Tanya will took my BIL’s name, I did the same when I married my husband (26M) last year, before marrying I didn’t have a personal instagram account (i don’t really use social media) and I just used my husband’s account if I needed it, but after our honeymoon I created an account to post the pictures and I chose “mrs[my husband last name]” as the handle. Now I have 79 followers (friends, family/in-laws and co-workers), 11 posts and I post some stories once in a while, I mostly use it to watch reels and keep updated on my favorite celebrities.
Well, last week I was helping Tanya with her wedding gift list and she asked me to change my IG handle to give it to her as the gift and that it will mean a lot to her, I suggested that she can just add a underscore, a period or even numbers and she said that it ruins the “username aesthetic” and that she never used it because she hates it, I was so confused at that point and I told her that I don’t understand why I have to do that, she got annoyed and told me that I don’t deserve to have that handle because I have a private account that I barely use and that I don’t even have 100 followers while she has 10k followers and a lot of ‘beautiful pictures’ with loads of likes and comments, and that she deserves the lastname more because she was in the family for a longer time (they are childhood friends and highschool sweethearts) and that they got engaged sooner than me (i’ve dated my husband 5 years), I tried to calm her saying that I already gave her a solution and she said that I should use that solution instead of her because she already reserved the handle in other social media (I checked and it’s true), as she was talking in a agressive manner at that point I leaved stating that was so childish and shallow that I wouldn’t do it.
Since then, i’ve been receiving texts and calls from my in-laws and her friends and family bashing me telling that I already ruined her most special day, the whole family is siding with her and they gave us the ultimatum that if I don’t give her my handle they will uninvite us of the wedding (I think they did this to put my husband against me). I feel very guilty because this insignificant thing have been affecting my husband as well (he was supposed to be my BIL’s best man as he’s his only sibling and we obviously wanted to attend) and I can just give in for the sake of everyone but at the same time i think i’m doing the right thing holding my position, Am I A Jerk?
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