Am I Wrong For Telling My Daughter That Her Foster Kid Isn’t My Grandchild

Perhaps you cannot alter the entire world, but you can alter the world of a foster child. Making the decision to become a foster parent benefits not only the kids and teens in need of a loving and secure home, but it also strengthens families, communities, and may enrich your own life. However not all agree to this idea. Read the story of what the grandmother feels of her foster grandchild and let us know what are your thoughts on this.

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My daughter (28) has gotten into DPS and fostering, she has had her own child biologically but now plans to foster and adopt children. She has been fostering this 8MO for a month now and it’s been a week-by-week process with the judge and bio family while they “sort out” their lives/issues that causes them to lose custody. Although it appears they don’t care, aren’t showing up to court or meetings, failing exams, etc., so who knows where that will go. My daughter hopes to keep Foster Child.

I am planning our first professional family photo in decades and am buying customized matching shirts; when I asked to confirm the size of Bio Child, she asked me about Foster Child. I told her I didn’t think to include her because she’s Foster and therefore may be temporary and it may be weird to have her in a family photo. She said all grandchildren should be included. My thought process is, she isn’t really her kid and therefore really isn’t my grandchild. That would change if she were adopted, but she isn’t yet.

She went off on me and hung up and I am sitting here feeling horrible. I did not mean I do not care for the child, she’s wonderful, but I thought I had a clear thought process?

I need some advice on if I’m wrong. Please don’t be afraid to criticize. Thank you for your time in advance.

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