Source: Reddit
I (30F) am getting married to my fiancé (31M) in the fall and we’re planning the wedding now. Both of us have big families so we’re trying to figure out how to make our guest list work with our budget. Our grandparents are all in their 80s and his grandma has Alzheimers – she forgets who people are, doesn’t know where she is a lot of the time, and sometimes she just randomly starts crying or yelling and it’s really depressing.
Both my grandparents also have some health issues and demand a lot of care and attention. I really don’t want any of this to ruin our big day. I don’t want his grandma shouting or making noise during the ceremony or my grandpa needing help and being a big distraction, and I feel like people are going to be paying a lot of attention to them instead of the wedding and the wedding couple.
So my fiancé and I decided that we don’t want anyone over 70 at the wedding and are making a blanket rule so it’s fair to everyone. I think they would be bored and more comfortable at home anyway, and it’s an opportunity for their caregivers to come out and relax and have fun without worrying about caregiving responsibilities for the evening. My fiancé is on board but the rest of my family is upset. I need some advice on if I’m wrong?
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