Not all parents are okay with their adult daughter having sexual relations with her beau before marriage. Some parents, like in this scenario, are strongly opposed to having sex until after marriage. Read the story and let us know how you would deal with the situation.
Source: Reddit
My stepdaughter is 23. She lives in a different city than us for work. My husband and I have 3 other daughters – 12, 10 and 8. They absolutely worship and adore their older sister, look up to her, want to copy her, the whole 9 yards.
We are Christians and are raising our girls with the concept of sex being for marriage. I know that’s not the most common in this day and age, but it’s something we feel strongly about.
Anyway, my stepdaughter has had a boyfriend for 2 years. They live together, which we don’t agree with, but she’s financially independent. For the last two years, every time she comes to visit, they stay in a hotel 25 minutes away (it’s the closest one) because we don’t allow them to share a room here.
There would be enough beds – he could take the spare room, and she could bunk in a queen bed with any of her sisters. Two years ago it wasn’t a big deal, but now my girls have put together why she won’t stay here, the youngest even said she’ll do the same when she’s her age, which I was pretty upset by.
Two weeks ago she was supposed to come to celebrate the two September birthdays of her sisters. I asked if she could stay at our house because her sisters have been noticing she won’t. She said no immediately. I’ll admit I could have phrased it better, but I said they were at an age where setting a good example is more important than ever and she wasn’t doing it. She got offended, we started to argue and then she told me to eff off, she’s not coming.
She didn’t come, which her sisters were upset by since she had said she would. She sent them a gift and gave them a call. When they asked why she didn’t come, she specifically said it was because I was rude to her, so my girls were then mad at me. I sent her a text telling her I didn’t appreciate it, she texted back “I don’t care” and we haven’t spoken since.
Was I wrong for making that request? I’m kind of blown away it’s turned into such a big thing, but sad that she’s already said she’s not coming for our other daughter’s November birthday and I don’t know how to make it right.
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