Many people would agree that a wedding is one of the most important events in someone’s life. When it comes to weddings, everybody has a viewpoint, but few can dispute its significance. But what if you discovered that a close family member is getting married in a location where you would never set foot in a million years? Would you miss it due to your strong convictions, or would you put them aside for a brief moment? Read the story to know what happened in this wedding planning and how you would deal with the situation.
Source: Reddit
Me (F) and my sister, Kate, haver* different religions. I am Catholic and she is evangelical.
We have our ideological differences, but we have a very close relationship, after all it was just me, her and my mother our entire childhood/adolescence.
I was proposed to 3 months ago, I decided I would have MoH my sister and no bridesmaid, my fiance agreed and only chose his best friend.
There will be a religious ceremony at the church and then we will go to a venue where the party will take place. For me, it’s important to get married in church. It Will happen in 4 months.
When I asked Kate to be my MoH and she was super excited. But during the preparations, when she learned that I would have a ceremony at the church, she seemed uncomfortable, but I didn’t question it (I waited for her to speak).
Well, last week, she called me for coffee and said that she didn’t feel comfortable going to a Catholic church because of her religion, so she couldn’t attend the religious ceremony, but she would love to go to the party, participate in everything, she just wouldn’t go at the ceremony.
I got really upset and said “This is an important moment for me, much more than the party and I wish all the people I love were there, including you”.
She replied, “I don’t feel comfortable going into churches other than my own, but I will participate in everything else.”
Me: “I don’t feel comfortable in other churches either, but I went with the greatest honor to your wedding, because I know it was important to you as well as for me”
She still stuck to the decision and I felt so tired and sad that I just got up and walked away.
After a lot of thinking, I called her and said “If one of the people I love the most can’t stay 2 hours at the most important moment for me, even though I asked it to be there for me and not for our religion… then I think You shouldn’t come to my wedding. If you can’t make a concession for me, then I shouldn’t make one for you.”
Well, she keeps texting me saying that I’m overreacting and that I should respect her stance. She and my mother are pressuring me to go back on my decision.
I’m just really upset, it’s something extremely important to me, I would like to have her be there and on my side, but she doesn’t want to and I felt betrayed, because I did it for her and she didn’t for me. Am I Overreacting ?
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